Anger is an extreme displeasure, hostility or exasperation towards someone or something. It is an emotion, which uncontrolled, can lead to unpleasant events.
Anger could be either constructive or destructive. Constructive anger is anger communicated in a reasonable and proper manner and associated with a reasonable issue. It is the driving force behind the desire to improve one's self or fight injustice.
Destructive anger is harmful and is expressed destructively for self-centered motives. This type of anger affects the body negatively by raising blood pressure, the heart rate goes up and the muscles become tense. Some people look for an avenue to vent their anger and end up doing or saying things that they would regret for a long time.
Can I be grieving and angry at the same time? YES
HOW? By refusing to let go or by blaming someone or yourself for your loss. This is destructive anger. Destructive anger if not dealt with, can lead to unforgiveness, hatred and sometimes, a desire to revenge.
To help the healing process, constructive anger is beneficial and must be the dominant type of anger.
Determine in your heart to release those you hold a grudge against, living or dead.
New beliefs must be incorporated to empower better choices.
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