The 4 to-dos of accepting a loss
3. Adjusting to life despite the loss.
Adjusting to life means different things for different people depending on the value they had for the removed person or item.
For those who lost a spouse through death or divorce, it takes a considerable period of time to adjust to living alone, raising children alone and managing the finances alone. Many do not like the idea of having to develop new skills and taking roles that were perfomed by the absent partner.
Their attempts to fill the role of the deceased may fail and lead to a further sense of anger towards the missing spouse for leaving them. Some withdraw from society in order to conceal their inadequacies.
One of the aims of coaching is to help the griever redefine their situation in life as they develop their personal, workable,coping systems.